How to live with Strangers (and your Wife)

The last few weeks have proven quite a dramatic, but seamless change in my life. I’ve got married, and I met some wonderful friends who all turned up for the wedding. We’ve had a new housemate move in, and things are generally all happening at once (oh and did I mention that my Wife is now 4 months pregnant?). Yeah, its been quite a few months. Sorry for not keeping you updated, although you probably are only mildly bothered! 

The house is really quite full at the moment, which isn’t a problem, and can actually be quite pleasant, if not in its own chaotic manner. Our new house mate, is pretty cool, a nice guy, getting himself together, and seems generally quite easy to live with. The key though, when living in a confined space certainly seems to be a few rules which are very important. 

Rule 1: Respect another brother (or wife’s) privacy. It is not cool to just burst into someone elses house or room. Come on dude! 

Rule 2: Be honest and open. Communicating has been so important with my now Wife and soul mate. Its pretty damn important with anybody. 

Rule 3: Be cool. Chill-out guys and if you’re not cool, get outside and get some cool fresh, or in a lot our European’s case, damp air. Relax. Chill, be happy with where you are. Now that is cool. 

Optional Rule 4: Share. I love to share things with people, especially about things I am into at the time. Sport and exercise normally are the key ones. Teaching people something they don’t know is pretty damn awesome. You have ‘fed them for life’, as they say. 

I know its quite a short post, but I figured that in the context of things, less is definitely more. 

I hope this helps guys and enjoy your week! 

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Ode to an Adventurer

Leave behind all the shoulds, the pettiness, and the fear of unknown. Leave behind the wants and needs of others, just a little while. Leave behind the roles responsibilities and reputations (spot the alliteration?), and strike out, trusting you and only you. Do not go and be a door mat anymore, do not listen to others when they berate you, or leave you feeling deflated. Listen only to that feeling within that can always be trusted, and will always look out for you, because that inherently is you, and is your voice, yourself, that if you get your head out of other people’s business and put your head squarely, honestly and resolutely back on yours. The feeling of excitement, that builds and builds when you feel yourself on the path, keep following it…that is the mark of a great person. That is the mark of an adventurer, and the never ending adventure which you will experience, will always bring you to somewhere far better than you ever could have imagined.

Bugger New Years Resolutions…

The First of a Few...(see even I wanted to improve and remove this tiny little cartoon drawn on a post-it note).

Its the beginning of a new year, isn’t that a scary thought? I barely even got the last one going.

This year is going to be different. That’s what we all say. Every year, every day, I say, “this is going to be beginning of my big change” where Archie comes into his fullest greatest, most fantastically amazing self. However, really, how long does this last? It’s certainly not permanent.

This year I have one non-resolution, to f**k new year resolutions. Screw it. Screw all of it. I’m bored and tired of holding myself to these unnecessary resolutions to change my life. This year, let yourself off the hook. Screw all those resolutions. Do what you enjoy. Focus as often as you can on what you like. Screw everything else. In the moment, look for that which excites and interests you. That’s all.  Screw resolutions (they’re not necessary anyway).

This year, indulge in being who you would like to be, doing what you would like to do, getting what you would like to have. That is all. I’ve had enough of personal development, I’m developed enough already, I’m now enjoying life. Go do the same.

Wherever You Are, There You Are

Lots have happened in the last few weeks, as you can see I haven’t exactly been posting all that often. I’m here write about what’s happened.

Well, I recently just started a new job, which entails going up to London and consulting on renewable energy finance. I am here because this job was easy to come by, it fell in my lap. It felt like the next logical step. The sad thing is that I guess, its pretty much on a similar kind of feeling vibration to my university degree; I spent much of it in a mild state of boredom.

So I guess now I got to face up to this particular belief. The belief that work, for me is boring. I’d like to change that. For me, as I am learning, its all about what is in your vibration. I am seeing that day in day out. The same kind of traits that I notice in new people, are those of the people I saw in old friends, not all of which I like, but mostly I just spot them, and see what I can do about it. Continue reading

The Art Of Creation and Life Really Is Awesome

A few days ago I was listening again to an Abraham Hicks seminar, that was talking about the process of allowing. The idea that we need not visualise, we need not make requests, all that is necessary is simply to find relief. Find relief from where you are, look for the thought that feels better. The simplicity of it all often throughs people. I often thought it was more complicated, more convoluted, as if it were a formula that I had to access, and once I had access, all my dreams would manifest right in front of my eyes.

Creation is an active process. Its keeping up with who you have become, you, all that you’ve lived, all your fully formed ideas, wants, and everything else inbetween. Keeping up, by going with it, finding that improved feeling is really the work that you need do. Everything else should be a joy. If its not, then find some relief before carrying on.

It literally is that simple. Life is seriously good. The sooner that you realise it the better. You are better than you realise, far better than you can comprehend. You life, as a result of all that you have lived is there to get seriously good for you. I mean absolutely wonderful. So wonderful that you’ll have you socks blown off, for want of a better phrase, thank you Abraham, by what will show up. Loving where you are, no, not loving, because thats not even necessary, its just learning where you are that’s made the difference to me.

Today, I was working out in the glorious sunshine, my hands were muddy from the soil I was moving, I was surrounded by lovely people, in a beautiful part of the country, and I was happy. I was gardening. It was simple, it was enjoyable, and I would have not rathered be anywhere else in the world. Today, I am a rich man. I am alive, I worked, I enjoyed wonderful food, outside in glorious weather, I exercised, I was having wonderful thoughts about my life, and where its heading. Its about the journey that is important, and today will be remembered as a day where I was rich. Rich in live, rich in living, rich in company, and rich in family.

Its these days, and moments that truly are what life is about. Make the effort to enjoy the journey, and the destination will take care of itself.

You don’t have to figure it all out at once, where you are is really quite good, the people around you are pretty awesome, your finances are where they need to be, your health is where it needs to be. You cannot change anything right now, this instant, other than your thinking, make an effort, find that which pleases you, and especially you, it only needs to please you, and you will find a wealth of power far greater than you ever imagined within you.

Life truly is awesome, creating is easy, enjoy the ride.

How To Be Enlightened: Remember the World Is Fundamentally Good To You.

Upon looking back at my life, its difficult not see that the most profound experiences I have had, all tell me a commonality which is so prevalent that I cannot ignore it. At its base the ‘universe’, ‘world’ or whatever you want to call it is categorically, and unwaveringly good.

Its so important to keep this in mind when it appears that all is falling down around us. Things always have worked out for me. They, if you’re honest, always seem to have worked out for you.  I mean, you’re here reading this post, so something must be keeping you alive! Continue reading

Be The Guru…

I’ve always speant a long time looking for my ‘guru’. Someone who will literally tell me, “Archie this is how you should live, and live this way and you’ll enjoy a fantastic meaningful life”. I’m not sure when this spawned out of me, but its an incredibly disempowering belief. That someone outside of you is the answer to all you’ve been looking for.

What is it about this? I’m sure as you’re reading this, you’re reflecting on times when possibly, you may have done the same. Thinking that we need to be told how to live. That someone knows us better than we know ourselves. How wrong was I? Continue reading