The Next (Lent) Challenge

Every year when Lent comes around, most people think about giving up something. It seems fairly standard to avoid Chocolate, or just sweet foods, or go without alcohol, or cigarettes. What I want to challenge you guys reading this, is to see whether there is anything that you would like to do.

Whether that’s 10 minutes of exercise, or more reading, or spending more time with friends, or something cooler like ‘more ice fishing’, I don’t know, but the point is definitely think of a the next 30-40 days to consistently do something that you could make into a habit.

Shrove Tuesday is always about feast before the fast, I’d like to think that today could be time for some reflection to decide what would be cool to do, and make a habit.

Food for thought, I say!


How to live with Strangers (and your Wife)

The last few weeks have proven quite a dramatic, but seamless change in my life. I’ve got married, and I met some wonderful friends who all turned up for the wedding. We’ve had a new housemate move in, and things are generally all happening at once (oh and did I mention that my Wife is now 4 months pregnant?). Yeah, its been quite a few months. Sorry for not keeping you updated, although you probably are only mildly bothered! 

The house is really quite full at the moment, which isn’t a problem, and can actually be quite pleasant, if not in its own chaotic manner. Our new house mate, is pretty cool, a nice guy, getting himself together, and seems generally quite easy to live with. The key though, when living in a confined space certainly seems to be a few rules which are very important. 

Rule 1: Respect another brother (or wife’s) privacy. It is not cool to just burst into someone elses house or room. Come on dude! 

Rule 2: Be honest and open. Communicating has been so important with my now Wife and soul mate. Its pretty damn important with anybody. 

Rule 3: Be cool. Chill-out guys and if you’re not cool, get outside and get some cool fresh, or in a lot our European’s case, damp air. Relax. Chill, be happy with where you are. Now that is cool. 

Optional Rule 4: Share. I love to share things with people, especially about things I am into at the time. Sport and exercise normally are the key ones. Teaching people something they don’t know is pretty damn awesome. You have ‘fed them for life’, as they say. 

I know its quite a short post, but I figured that in the context of things, less is definitely more. 

I hope this helps guys and enjoy your week! 

Talent: Use it.

A while ago I left my ‘steady’ job in the city to find a more meaningful existence doing more of what excited me. It was crazy. At the time I literally left my job to pursue a hobby; Crossfit. I had no idea of how I would pay for any of it, all I knew was that I was now going to live the life I’d intended even if I ended in much more tricky places than I was in now. To begin with I really didn’t have an idea as to what was next. My perspective was clouded by negative influences from my family, and so for a fairly long time I just didn’t give my self the space to start taking definitive steps towards making a life as well as a living.

I think is where we go wrong. Due to the fact that we have ‘things’ pay for, rent, food, car, insurance, gym membership, going out, alcohol, we lose sense of what we’re trying to achieve. Our life becomes geared towards paying for these meaningless things, whilst neglecting all too often our true desires. Isn’t it funny, how many artists do you know, who rarely paint? Or singers who seldom perform, or dancers of work as waitresses in chain restaurants? It’s insane. All of these highly talented people, who don’t feel that what they’re good at is worth anything. People who no longer believe their passion will sustain them. I know this, because I was one of them. Isn’t it sad?

Imagine what the world would look like if people bet on themselves more? Can you imagine who much more ‘art’ there would be. How much more happy people doing what excited them, there would be? I get a sense it would be a pretty special place.

Wherever you are today, in relation to what is that you’ve been meaning and wanting to do, just take a moment to ponder why you haven’t been doing it. What’s the reason? There’s nothing silly about why you haven’t been doing it (time, money, location etc.) but ask yourself if there is just one thing to help you take a step to doing more of what you enjoy, and less of what you don’t. It will most likely be very simple. I’m not going to put ideas in your head with examples, because you’ve got a brain, you know what to do.

Your talents were given to you because they were there to be developed, but most importantly because you were meant to feel joy whilst doing them. That’s the reason we’re here isn’t it? To love who we are, to love what we do, to be excited by the possibilities and have a wonderful adventure making them happen.

I have a lot more to say, but you will have to wait for me to publish it because today that’s enough. Life is good, it sorts things out for you, just let it, if you feel disgruntled by your job, don’t quit, just breath deep, relax, and embrace whatever it has there, most likely its better than you might sometimes think it is. If you’re bored, enjoy it. That’s when creative times begin!

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this as much as I have writing,


Work as Infinite Play

There is change afoot, and I’m sure you’ve noticed it. At this point in time we are standing in a place where our ideas of how life could be lived is being changed, reshaped and re-formed. Teachers from around the globe are coming to fairly similar ideas about life, love and what we are here to do in general in our short space of time.

Tim Ferriss wrote about in the 4 Hour Work Week, Leo Babauta’s blog Zen Habits is a testament to turning passion into a full-time career, and countless others have done the same. Bashar talks about following your highest excitement. It is the same thing.

The key is that these guys took little, manageable leaps of faith, and trusted that it would work out. More than that, they knew it would work, it time and focus, but predominantly they did what excited them, and amazingly they all become highly successful in their respect fields.

The lesson in all of this, is to have the courage to in any moment, do that which excites you most.

Last night I was watching a film called “What Happens in Vegas”, it was on t.v. and in case you haven’t heard about it, the story goes that a guy and girl for different reasons, and from different walks of life, end up, on a drunken night getting married. In the morning, although its a surprise at first, they decide its better to end it there and then, however, in twist, they win three million dollars. The court rules they have to live as a married couple for six months in order to have access to the three million dollars.

The story line although a little Hollywood, has some great truths in it. The character Jack mentions he “rather be happy doing nothing, than doing something he hated”. That line stuck with me, because imagining that is quite a liberating thought. If it were, it essentially is talking about following what you’re passionate about, and really trusting that things will work out. Now, he is umemployed throughout, having been fired by his Dad, but the message is undiluted.

Imagine what life would be like for you if you decided to, in any conscious moment, do that which excited you most. Think about what you would do right now. Scary isn’t it? Liberating and frightening at the same time. The trick is doing the thing which excites you the most, but without any expectation other than it pleases you in the moment.

That’s the cool part about this. Its very easy to be criticised at first for following through with this, however, by trusting what is the thing that pleases you most, and having the faith that you will be fully supported, is the most exhilarating experience. It puts you in the drivers seat, and the more often you do it, the more you’ll begin to realise that oddly, although as time passes not so oddly, that miraculously as if by magic the necessary components just line up. Now that is the cool part to this.

Today, or right now, see if you can go and do the thing which excites you most, its pretty easy with a bit of practice. It literally just takes a little more faith in yourself, than usual, but its very cool when you do, and it feels great.

Be Yourself

be the teacher, the person you are, be the up-lifter you know you can be. That’s the only way to live. Living is about becoming more than we already are. Its about standing where you are, and realising that as a result of what you have experienced you, you have a complete and absolute right to wanting what you want; if you grew up feeling poor, know without a doubt you’d rather be wealthy, if you felt unloved, you are more worthy of being adored, if you felt unattractive, you deserve to feel fricking amazing.

It’s simple as that.

Its Time

Ever been nervous?

Today, as you go about you day, ask yourself, what is excites me most right now? You will know the answer immediately, because in any moment, we probably have only 2 or 3 truly viable options to act upon in the moment, left, right, back, forward, whatever it is, don’t judge it, and just do it. If it scares you, even better, that means you’ve gotta do it 🙂